According to Amy…

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Amy Poehler has a long list of roles on her resume. Comedian. Actress. Director. Producer. Writer.

She can also add ‘mentor’ to that list.

In her best-selling first book, “Yes Please,” Poehler describes her life not only as an award-winning actress, but also as a woman who has gone through her fair share of setbacks. She’s honest and uncensored, adding a high level of transparency to her writing.

Poehler shares her [good and bad] experiences and meaningful advice in a way that makes her seem relatable to anyone. You don’t have to be an Emmy-nominated actress (fingers crossed this year for “Parks and Recreation”) to find relevance in her stories.

Below are ten quotes from her book that prove it.

  1. “I think we should stop asking people in their twenties what they ‘want to do’ and start asking them what they don’t want to do.” (12)

  2. “Decide what your currency is early. Let go of what you will never have. People who do this are happier and sexier.” (21)

  3. “Sleep can change your entire outlook on life. One good night’s sleep can help you realize that you shouldn’t break up with someone, or you are being too hard on your friend, or you actually will win the race or the game or get the job.” (177)

  4. “Too often we are told to visualize what we want, cut out pictures of it and repeat it like a mantra over and over again. Books and magazines tell us to create vision boards. Late night commercials remind us that ‘anything is possible.’ Positive affirmations are written on our tea bags. I’m introducing a new idea. Try to care less. Practice ambivalence. Learn to let go of wanting it. Treat your career like a bad boyfriend.” (222)

  5. “It doesn’t matter how much you get; you are left wanting more. Success is filled with MSG.” (225)

  6. “Change is the only constant. Your ability to navigate and tolerate change and its painful uncomfortableness directly correlates to your happiness and general well-being.” (279)

  7. “Some people hate the word, and I understand how ‘bossy’ can seem like a shitty way to describe a woman with determined point of view, but for me, a bossy woman is someone to search out and celebrate. A bossy woman is someone who cares and commits and is a natural leader.” (304)

  8. “Not enough is made of the fact that being of service makes you feel good. I think nonprofits should guarantee that giving your time and money makes your skin better and your ass smaller.” (306)

  9. “A person’s tragedy does not make up their entire life. A story carves deep grooves into our brains each time we tell it. But we aren’t one story.” (312)

  10. “The only way we will survive is by being kind. The only way we can get by in this world is through the help we receive from others. No one can do it alone, no matter how great the machines are.” (329)

Have you read Poehler’s book yet? What are your favorite quotes?

The List of Lists

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The ladies behind the House of Marbury blog have the right idea: Making to-do lists for use outside of work/school.

A blog post on the site from last month features five lists that you (and I) should consider making. It’s always necessary to make to-do lists for obligations concerning work, school and other responsibilities. Yet, it’s also important to prioritize parts of our personal lives, too (let’s not forget that we still have those!). The post includes five lists to use outside of our normal obligations and responsibilities:

  • A travel list

  • A reading list

  • A shopping list

  • A “bucket list” (of course)

  • A goals list

I have sticky notes and notepads full of lists for work and other responsibilities, but I’m all for making the above lists, too. Below is my own reading to-do list, which I hope to get through this summer (with a glass of wine nearby, of course).

Reading To-Do List

  • “The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P.” by Adelle Waldman
    I read in an online article that actress Kate Hudson was reading this book. After reading a few reviews, I knew I had to add it to my list.

  • “The Knockoff” by Lucy Sykes and Jo Piazza
    I first learned about this book on the blog Pink Champagne Problems. I loved “The Devil Wears Prada,” so I think I’ll enjoy this one, too.

  • “Modern Romance” by Aziz Ansari
    It’s written by Aziz. Enough said. (It comes out next week!)

  • “Why Not Me” by Mindy Kaling
    Mindy’s first book is one of my favorites, so I might just have to preorder this one as I impatiently await the return of her show.

So, what’s on your to-do lists?

New Read: Leave Your Mark

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If you’re looking for insider tips on how to make it in your career (especially, the fashion and/or PR industry), Aliza Licht has nearly 300 pages worth of them for you.

Licht, senior vice president of Donna Karan International and DKNY PR Girl, released her book “Leave Your Mark” last month, which includes professional advice that she’s learned while advancing in her own (obviously successful) career.

The book is divided into the following four sections:

  • Landing Your Dream Job

  • Killing It in Your Career

  • Rocking Social Media

  • Creating the Brand of You

In each section, Licht shares stories of her own professional journey while also providing useful “insider tips” to readers. Some of her stories include those “WTF” moments we all have had (and/or dread) at work. Co-workers who are almost unbearable to work with or simply be around? Yep, she’s dealt with that, too.

Some of my favorite insider tips include:

  • Insider Tip: “You don’t get a promotion for doing your job; you get a promotion for going above and beyond your job.”

  • Insider Tip: “Act one level above the job you currently have.”

  • Insider Tip: “Your boss wants to know that you are passionate about the success of the business, whether it’s in your job description or not.”

The best part about Licht’s tips is that they aren’t reserved for fashion PR hopefuls. All career-minded readers can take them and run with them (hopefully towards the careers they truly want).

You can read more about Licht and her success here.

Three Cheers for “Chef”

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Emjay Anthony and Jon Favreau in “Chef” (chefthefilm.com)

When my professor decided to show our social media management class the film “Chef” last week, I was reminded how much I love the film. Honestly, it’s one of the most underrated films today. Below are three reasons why I recommend the film:

1. “Chef” highlights the importance of social media marketing for businesses.

The film centers on chef Carl Casper’s (Jon Favreau) journey from cooking as a head chef in a kitchen to being a chef on his own food truck. Casper is set back by an issue that any communication or marketing major can point out instantly: his lack of social media awareness. Casper’s young son, Percy (Emjay Anthony), has to teach him how to use Twitter. Casper even mistakenly tweets out a message that he meant to send to a food critic privately. He’s a social media newbie; however, he eventually learns just how effective social media can be when used correctly (thanks to Percy).

2. A family is brought together by food.

Casper not only finds his passion for cooking again while working on the food truck, but he also mends his relationship with Percy and his ex-wife Inez (Sofia Vergara).

3. It features actor and director Jon Favreau at his finest.

Favreau has directed and/or acted in several hits (the “Iron Man” films, “The Wolf of Wall Street,” etc.), but “Chef” shows off his producing, directing, writing and acting skills. So, that pretty much makes him a quadruple threat.

“Chef” is available on DVD now.

Another Reason to Love Zoe Saldana

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A still from “The Book of Life” from bookoflifemovie.com

Zoe Saldana has done it again.

Instead of taking on a role that solely features her good looks, Saldana’s most recent film role emphasizes her voice. And it’s a voice that must be heard.

In the new animated film “The Book of Life,” Saldana provides the voice for Maria, a young and beautiful woman who must decide who to marry between two men, Manolo and Joaquin (voiced by Diego Luna and Channing Tatum, respectively). Although the film mainly tells the story of Manolo’s journey back to Maria after he dies, Maria’s attitudes towards marriage, relationships and even feminism come to the forefront.

Although both men try their hardest to impress her, Maria makes it known that it will take more than good looks and mere acts of brawn to pique her interest in either of them. Maria doesn’t belong to either of her suitors, which she makes very clear. However, she does desire a relationship with someone who not only loves her but also respects her.

It’s no surprise that Saldana chose to add this role to her list of acting credentials. She’s played a fierce warrior in “Guardians of the Galaxy,” a vengeful assassin in “Columbia” and several other strong female characters.

Saldana is more that just a pretty face; Her upcoming film roles will continue to prove that.

MOVIE REVIEW: Gone Girl

Gone Girl movie poster

Former writer turned bar owner Nick Dunne (Ben Affleck) discovers that his wife, Amy (Rosamund Pike), has been kidnapped from their home on the couple’s fifth wedding anniversary. Subsequent media frenzy and uncovered lies result in the public pointing a judgmental finger at Nick but, as the plot in “Gone Girl” progresses, viewers see just how twisted Nick and Amy’s relationship truly is.

One question remains: Can the world’s most expensive and educated therapist even attempt to help this couple?

Based on the novel of the same title by Gillian Flynn, the film lures viewers into Nick and Amy’s relationship and leaves them oftentimes second-guessing themselves when wondering what really happened between the pair.

Affleck’s role almost seems to have been crafted specifically for him. Nick is a people-pleaser, but still manages to get under everyone’s skin. Affleck portrays this perfectly, even when he’s smiling next to his missing (and potentially dead) wife’s photograph. However, Affleck’s A-list name and proven acting abilities can’t steal the shine from Pike’s performance. As the film progresses, Pike’s portrayal of Amy’s manipulative and deceptive behavior leaves audience members’ jaws to the ground and eyes glued to the screen.

Supporting actors Carrie Coon, Neil Patrick Harris and Tyler Perry also give exceptional performances in the film as their characters are each somehow wrapped up in the mayhem surrounding the main characters’ relationship.

And, as viewers find out, this is one relationship to stay far away from.

New Season, New Reads

It’s finally here. The season filled with cooler temperatures, sidewalks laden with colorful leaves, and enough pumpkin spiced lattes to satisfy crowds of Starbucks customers has arrived.

It’s also the time for new book releases—especially autobiographical novels. Below are a few books that I’m excited to read this fall:

• Lena Dunham’s “Not That Kind of Girl”
-I haven’t been able to binge-watch Dunham’s show “Girls” just yet, but I do follow her on social media. Simply put, she’s awesome. So, reading her book is on my to-do list. (Available now)

• Amy Poehler’s “Yes, Please”
-From “Saturday Night Live” to “Parks and Recreation,” Poehler’s range of comedic talents are undeniable. So, would hordes of fans want a chance to read her funny tidbits concerning her personal life? Yes, please. (Available October 28)

• “Tory Burch: In Color by Tory Burch”
-“Vogue” editor Anna Wintour wrote the foreword to Burch’s book. Enough Said. (Available October 14)

• “Neil Patrick Harris: Choose Your Own Autobiography”
-This isn’t a typical autobiography. Instead, Harris’ autobiography invites readers to put themselves into Harris’ shoes while reading about his experiences. (Available October 14)

• “The Andy Cohen Diaries: A Deep Look at a Shallow Year”
-Any man who has had to sit amongst angst-filled reality TV show casts must have some interesting thoughts and insights. Readers can get the inside scoop in Cohen’s upcoming book. (Available November 11)